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2007.01.22

Allison Quets: adoption gone wrong

The story I first heard was of a woman, Allison Quets, who had kidnapped her 17-month-old twins from their adoptive parents, the Needhams . She placed them for adoption at 6 weeks, and then changed her mind 12 hours later, but her twins were not returned.

 

A simple, yet horrible, tale of adoption gone wrong.

 

The fact that the birth was in Florida, which is known in some adoption circles as the place to persuade the birth mother to give birth in order to prevent her changing her mind, set off alarm bells.  As did the reports of her being sick in the month’s prior, and just after, the caesarean birth. The fact that her (now ex) boyfriend was related to the adoptive father, the fact that Allison has spend thousands of dollars contesting the adoption, all stack up and suggest that here is a young woman, dumped by the boyfriend, her wishes ignored by the state, and desperate for her children back.

 

It is also, at least in part, wrong.

 

Ms. Allison Quets is 49 and, until recently, at Lockheed Martin as a systems engineer in the defence department contractor's internal information technology department. She quit shortly before the kidnapping. Not a young or uneducated woman. Florida was her home state, she had not been persuaded to go there.

 

She conceived via IVF using donor egg & sperm. So while she is the twins birth/surrogate mother, she is not genetically related to them. Many feel this is a form of adoption itself – adoption of an embryo rather than an infant, but the same issues at the end of the day.

 

Allegedly she had a list of things she demanded of the adoptive parents: the right to name the children, dictate presents, be there on their birthdays and others that were potentially intrusive and over controlling.  She also (allegedly) asked the adoptive parents to pay her IVF costs. Equally these have been suggested as ways she was trying to put them off the adoption.

 

All bar the legal information is from the Quets side, as the Needhams and their attorneys will not discuss the adoption, citing the confidentiality of adoption cases.

 

What is not in contention is that she gave up her children for adoption, changed her mind and has been contesting the decisions made by the court ever since.

 

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